So I've been real possessive of my friends in my relationship because until WE are an US... They not ya friends bro. I can't say how happy it makes me that my guy friends LOVE my husband and vice versa, like they all have genuine relationships outside of me. It's super cool. It was so heart warming to me when after Jason and I got married he said to me. "Mia I have gained THREE families now; your family, your guy friends (Richard, Yon and Brandon), AND your football family." He was genuinely so excited, and that made me smile.
My husband has close friends that are women. I encourage it. Women are amazing and I feel like men and women can learn so much from each other. I feel like he'd be depriving himself of so much knowledge and growth if his relationships with women were exclusive to family members. Women are awesome, I am not the least bit threatened by his relationships with women outside of me. What Jason and I have is not in any way comparable to his relationships with other women, and never will be.
My bestie Richard and I's future wife Irishca always bond over the fact that we have really confident men that love and trust our judgment. I can tell you I don't know many men that would be totally cool with me going on weekend trips to music festivals, etc. with a group of guys... I mean at my best friend Richard's bachelor party I was the ONLY woman there that wasn't working, and Jason thought nothing of it. But honestly, this has NEVER been an issue for Jason and I, and that is reason 239420342070591 why I know we are truly meant to be.
This kinda ties into some comments that Rick Ross made that pissed me off, and the taboo nature of male/female friendships. Rick Ross made a comment in a breakfast club interview when asked about having female artists on his record label. He said “You know, I never did it because I always thought that like I would end up fucking the female rapper [and then] fucking the business up. I’m so focused on my business. I gotta be honest with you. You know, she looking good and I’m spending so much money on the photoshoots…I gotta fuck a couple times.”
Just disgusting, and to be honest I'm very weary of men in particular that believe men and women can't have genuine platonic friendships... They almost always are extremely insecure, sexist, or both. The fact they refuse to see any woman as a human and only frame a woman's identity to be associated with being a sexual object around for their gratification is very problematic. Not to mention he said "I'm spending so much money on the photoshoots... I gotta fuck a couple times" which was pretty much implying that by spending money he is entitled to a woman's body. So many layers to this comment man, so many. But I won't bore y'all with that today. Maybe some other time...
I'm grateful I don't roll with men that think like Rick Ross. I'm grateful my male friends and my husband see me as a fully realized person. One they are capable of connecting with on more than a sexual level. They see me, they respect me, and it makes me incredibly sad that this mindset Rick Ross has is so painfully common.